I have recently found out that I am a grotesquely negative thinker. It’s not that every thought I have is negative, but rather that I typically see the negative first. I don’t know how I’ve become this or how it became a habit, but I know that it has contributed to my downfall in many areas.
I have been negative about people and I have been negative about various other things. I am a recovering perfectionist who is learning that nothing will ever be perfect and it’s only a waste of time and energy to believe that perfection is attainable. What really matters is taking the shots and, as the quote goes, “You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.”
I mention my perfectionist side because I believe it is a great source of the “standard” by which I compare everything. Everything seems negative when you’re striving for perfection!
I think it’s easier to see the negative in things than the positive. It takes no effort to find things that bug us in this fallen and broken world. Negative thinking can be equally self-pleasing in an unhealthy way, or self-defeating because it elevates or tears down, even at a subconscious level, the way you place yourself in comparison to the subject in each case of negativity. Comparison, whether it be comparing your best with someone else’s worst or your worst with someone else’s best, is deadly.
This world is no doubt full of difficulties and things that could be perceived negatively, but I have been convinced lately that we hold the power of our attitudes and choices in our hands.
Positivity, like negativity, is a choice and a habit. The more we look for the best, the more we will see the best. The more we look for the worst, the more we will see the worst. It’s a muscle, if you would.
To be positive is to look for the best in everything, every person, and every situation and that certainly comes with challenges. Nobody is perfect and nothing is perfect, hence why it’s easy to be stuck in the swing of seeing the negative, but the choice of where you look is up to you.
Positivity is also not a matter of lying to yourself. It is not deceiving yourself into believing there is a bright side. It is taking what is true and focusing on the right areas. As I find my way down the journey of intentional and habitual positivity, I can’t help but notice an undeniable difference in the state of my soul. It feels and looks better.
So when life delivers you a bouquet of roses today, you can choose to look at the thorns, or you can admire the beautiful petals.